Nowadays I often see or hear my friends getting married. May it be from their Facebook or WhatsApp status and profile or from my friends or friends of friend, I somehow get to know. One of my own close friend is also going to get married soon.
Sometimes it feels good to hear, sometimes I think, really??? How ? But who would marry that person? How come he have such a good-looking wife? Sometimes I am happy, sometimes I am surprised and yet some other times, I envy them.
Regarding marriage, the most important thing which comes to my mind is choice. Whether you are marrying as per your choice or your parents, you should be happy. There is no point in respecting other opinions if your own opinion is not respected. I am not against parents finding a bride, but they should also consider our opinion.
This is India and here all types of situations happen when it comes to marriage. Caste system, emotional black mailing, society, relatives, opinions and mind-set of many people, dowry – all play an important part in the process of marriage. However, it’s strange that all those so-called relatives will disappear after marriage leaving the newlyweds alone to survive on their own. That’s why it becomes necessary to understand those whose opinions really matters, i.e., of the boy and girl. Other opinions matter, but they are secondary in my view.
There are some who agree to their parents choice and marry and then they live happily too. In fact, this tradition happens a lot in our country. Parents fix marriages and their children respect their decisions. They lead a happy life as they are content and they accept everything as good. Naturally, destiny also smiles for them. One of my friend is such a lucky fellow.
But the others, like us, think and decide and then take decisions. Sometimes it’s good to accept everything as God’s gift. But we get caught in a turmoil, a game played between our mind and life. Our life has something for us and our mind desires something else. This battle of desire and life goes on and on, and the ultimate loser becomes our mind because it is nothing but a bundle of never ending desires. If we can hone this mind to fix on one thing and go after it, then it becomes our greatest asset but otherwise, it has also the tendency to mislead us. Life, on the other hand, always teaches us, makes us tough, gives us courage, make us capable and self confident in it’s own way. It is always very interesting to observe life, how it changes us in various ways.
If you ask me, marriage is basically about respecting and understanding each other lifestyles and who can do it sincerely, they can go a long way. For me, I can only say I am enjoying and observing what life has in store for me. And on a lighter note, I would also like to see my status in Facebook as married or something like that.
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